When we find love, everything is better. We feel happy, excited and we face each day with anticipation, because each day will be shared with the one we love. This exuberance can go on for days, weeks or even years, if we are fortunate to have marriage in the picture.
Regardless of the duration, it can feel devastating when it ends. People like me, a poet, come to write about our feelings as a way to cope or to help others understand they are not alone in what they are feeling. We need to realize, our feelings are personal and do cut to the bone for the man and the woman. This can make us feel embarrassed about what has happened and affect our self esteem – regardless of who left and why. If you experience “Lost love” there are a few things you can do to help yourself work through the pain.
Getting past a lost relationship is not easy, and there is no magic formula or magic pill, but you can take steps to make it better. It takes time and proactive actions by you to get through the pain. It will be better in time, and that is different for each of us. However, you have to make a positive change each day and every day. You need to be constantly moving forward to heal yourself. Do not hibernate, stay inside alone, or avoid your friends. Do things you like. Explore new interests. Try new things, especially if they give you the opportunity to meet new people. Find ways to interact and be active. Let yourself heal; give yourself the chance to be happy, even if you’re single for awhile. Do not spend your time beating yourself up or living in a place of sorrow.
There is someone out there for each of us. Do not shut everyone out so they cannot find you. As they pass by your life, be open and let them in; they could be the one for you.