Being in a relationship with someone you really care about cannot be something you take for granted. You cannot rely on the flames of love to continue to keep burning bright if you dont continue to fan the flame, give it oxygen and maybe some additional fuel. You need to show your partner you care. It is work to be in a relationship. An “I Love You” once in a while and flowers on Valentine’s Day will not be enough. Do not make the assumption that many do, “they know I care and love them“. Be sure you remind them and do it now and do it always.

There are many ways to show your partner you care. Here are a few for you to consider, and maybe keep using if you are already working on your relationship. I am going to write them for “her”, but you can turn  them around and easily use on “him” for my female readers.

• Greet her with a morning perk. While she is in the shower, make her a cup of coffee and give to her with her towel.
• Be sure to give her a kiss, and tell her you love her, each time you leave home.
• Give her a warm welcome when she gets home. Drop what you are doing, give her your attention and greet her with a hug and a warm kiss. Ask her about her day, “listen” for her answer and then go back to what you were working on.
• When she emerges and is finished getting dressed, compliment her on what she is wearing. Yes, is can be good to tell her you like her shoes. If you left before her in the morning, tell her when she gets home that she looks nice.
• Be lazy together. It is nice to just relax on a Sunday afternoon, or maybe a rainy day, and be happy doing nothing together. Sitting around in your PJ’s, drinking coffee, reading the paper or watching a movie. Let her pick the Netflix® movie. Sit back and enjoy the “chic” flick or that romantic comedy she chooses. Sit with her; sit close; cuddle and touch her throughout the movie: hold hands, give her a foot massage, stroke her hair, and maybe even kiss her neck.
• Make a commitment to have a date night together. Be sure you are committed to have a night which is sacred to the two of you; meaning nothing gets in the way of your date night together. The night should be special and fun – be sure you dress up for her. Be spontaneous and do the planning. Surprise her. Let her know you care, and you are proud to be out with her.
• Don’t let all the work around the house be hers to do. Be spontaneous, pitch in and help. Helping anytime is good; but try to be sensitive when she is tired and still doing the work that needs to be done. Jumping in here let’s her know you are sensitive to how she feels, and you are there for her.
• Surprise her with a meal. Every once in a while cook for her. Make your special dish; something she likes; or make a meal that works for the two of you. She will like that you slaved over the meal and made all the preparations. After her welcome home kiss, she just needs to sit, enjoy the wine and your meal. I always remind my family when I make cheesecake that I slaved over preparation for hours to make it for them, [Yes is was an instant recipe but we have good fun each time we have it with our meal].
• Don’t be afraid of “PDA’s”[public displays of affection]. When you are in public, don’t be afraid to show you you care – hold hands, put your arm around her, give her a warm kiss on the cheek or a soft kiss on the lips. Let people know you are proud to be with her; you are comfortable being together in public and you are comfortable showing everyone she is not just the person you are walking next to, but she is one you care about and not afraid to show them your affection for her.
• Be respectful when you sense she needs her space. Sometimes she might need time to herself for whatever reason. Dont push her on why, just let her have the space without smothering her or giving her the second degree. This might be time for her to lay on the bed, maybe watching Lifetime® channel all afternoon; or maybe a night out with her girlfriends. Respect her need for space and time for herself.
• Surprise her with little hand written notes: maybe a Post-it®. Doesn’t need to be long and lengthy, just a note to say “I love you” or maybe “missing you”; “see you tonight”; “thanks for the coffee”; “thinking of you”or “you’re the greatest”. Leave them around the house, in her briefcase, in her luggage, in a drawer, or in her jewelry box. You know the smile that will come over her face when she sees the note. I bet you get a phone call or a phone message.

Looking at this list, I am sure you are already doing these and then some. You know it is important to work on your relationship to insure the fire stays lit and you keep the spark alive. Your partner is important to you, and it is important that you are always making sure they know, they are reminded, and they realize how special they are to you. “Never assume they know”.

If you have something special you do for your partner that shows you care, send me a note and I will be sure to add it to a future post.

Thank you for taking the time to visit. I hope you enjoyed the read.